Learn to feel what you really need

It is common today to live a life only using logic and reasoning. We tend to rationally assess everything that happens to us because we live in a competitive world. In a world, where most things are evaluated only by quantifiable results: money, popularity, career.

However, if you were to recall the most pleasant moments of your life, you would be surprised that most of them were based on an incomprehensible emotional feeling. You don’t know how, but you were in the right place at the right time, talked to the right person, came up with the right solution. How can you explain this?

This is because deep down you know exactly what you need and exactly what you want. We have this inner subconscious voice that we haven’t heard for years, that we suppress by silencing it with rational arguments. We must find a good balance between our emotional and rational sides.

Pay close attention to yourself, carefully identify your very first thoughts and emotions, when you take on something new. Because it is precisely these very first impulses that break through from within us are the rightest ones.

Learn to identify your true needs, which, without any rational explanation, give you the greatest satisfaction, pleasure, and lead to true success and happiness.

What is important is to advance into action

If you rationalize that you don’t know where to start, start with an action, no matter how small it is.

Often, we are afraid of the choice before us, because we think too much about it. We constantly think about what awaits us and what has to be done, thus exaggerating the complexity of the task. We consider all the options, feel sorry for ourselves, and keep postponing the practical action, even though our head is filled with this one single thought about it.

This “pre-start” condition is the most difficult and the most tiring one. Therefore, when we postpone some tasks, decisions, the best way to facilitate the process is to start it with the smallest and simplest things.

If you have a task to do, take a sheet of paper and very slowly write the task title at the top of it. Keep that sheet of paper with the task title right in front of your eyes and that’s already a start. Such a simple, small, easy action will set the intention in motion and the work will begin. You won’t even notice when you start working, acting, thus making big concerns and fears vanish.

Being yourself is not being perfect

We stress about being perfect almost all the time. We choose the best specialist, a famous person, a genius, or a celebrity as our role model. We compare ourselves to them, we judge ourselves by them, and we don’t even consider that we are different and unique.

If we can’t easily reach these exceptional standards, we feel bad – miserable, small, hopeless. And we feel this way only because we compare ourselves to others forgetting our own uniqueness, the form of actions inherent to us, and our ways of acting. After all, not without reason it is said that we judge on everything only by comparison, and there is some truth to this, but the best way is to compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today. Therefore, stop expecting too much from yourself and comparing yourself to others. Compare your progress only.

Did I do more today than yesterday? This should be the only criterion. Today I went one centimetre further than yesterday. This will help you avoid excessive stress, improve your self-esteem, and feel much better.

Only you know what you need and how to achieve it.

Don’t seek to change others, change yourself

Typical human nature urges to see the surrounding medium better than oneself. This creates problematic situations where, being dissatisfied with what is happening around us, we want to control the surrounding medium instead of ourselves. After all, it is easier, more efficient, and more meaningful to focus on what we ourselves can do about what we don’t like.

It implies extremely simple, but not easy to do things – if something dissatisfies you, look for ways to change your attitude towards it. When trying to influence others, start with yourself. Maybe you can change your reactions, maybe you can change your actions, maybe you can change your attitude towards something that dissatisfies you: react differently, try to avoid, somewhat ignore.

Remember – everything that happens to you depends only on you. Such an approach leads to a clearer understanding of your role and responsibility in your life.

Before you jump to conclusions, try just asking

Stop jumping to conclusions about the surrounding medium based on your thoughts only. If it’s only you, who draw conclusions and speak, you will not be able to learn anything new, because you cannot say out loud what you do not know.

Before drawing conclusions, make sure to ask, talk to another person, because you can draw conclusions, understand reasons, and find solutions only together with another person. This is because you see the world through your eyes and another person sees it through their eyes. Believe me – we experience the same view differently.

Therefore, it’s better if you don’t draw any conclusions that affect more than just you. You may overlook things that will be obvious to another person.

So, make sure to talk about things you really care about.